Here's the truth: It's complicated, and messy, and full of panicky meltdowns where you turn the manual sideways and wonder if you're actually doing it all wrong. But surprisingly, despite the enormous amount of people in this position, my recent Google searches on dating with kids post-divorce have turned up next to nothing on the subject. There are lots of lists, of course, indicating the appropriate time to introduce your new partner to your children and how to do so smoothly. But I couldn't find any brutally honest testimonials describing the way to be both a single mom and a girlfriend without screwing everything and everyone up in the process.
Why “Nothing personal, but I don’t want to date a single mom” is totally personal
Everything Must Go!: Don't Date Single Mothers - Here is Why
I haven't read every post in your blog but most of what I have read seems to indicate that you feel that sex is pretty much the only purpose of a female? Sometimes this doesn't matter, such as in a casual relationship, but in a marriage, no wife wants to boink the husband that is irritated at her yet still wants to have sex. Men seek women for more than sex. Women want men for money, security, resources
True life: Dating while being a single mom to young kids is complicated
Way back at the beginning of my single mom dating shenanigans I fell in love with an older man. My kids were 1 and 3, his were in college. A few months in, I broke it off over a boozy Italian dinner. Old story:
There are many different reasons why some men refuse to date single moms. In general, discussing dating preferences can cause unintentional hurt feelings, and emotional sensitivity. Usually if a woman hears a man say he would NEVER date a single mom , and she happens to be a single mom, her feelings are hurt.