Genuine narcissists have a condition called Narcissistic Personality Disorder, which is a form of mental illness. They can be hell to live with, they can destroy your confidence and they can make you feel utterly worthless. Trying to persuade you that perfectly normal behaviour is somehow wrong is classic narcissist behaviour. Gaslighting is a technique used by the narcissist in dysfunctional relationships to convince the other person that their views are wrong. Narcissists lack empathy:
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People are drawn to narcissists because they can be charming and charismatic. In fact, one study showed that their likable veneer was only penetrable after seven meetings. There are unconscious explanations why you might attracted to a narcissist. Here are some reasons why you might not recognize a narcissist:
There’s a point at which you know you’re dating a narcissist
You meet a new person who comes across as intensely charming. But at some point, things shift. What felt like affectionate teasing now has a nastier edge.
People who meet the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder or those who have traits of Antisocial Personality Disorder can operate in extremely manipulative ways within the context of intimate relationships due to their deceitfulness, lack of empathy, and their tendency to be interpersonally exploitative. Although I will be focusing on narcissistic abusers in this post, due to the overlap of symptoms in these two disorders, this can potentially apply to interactions with those who have ASPD to an extent. Understanding the nature of these toxic interactions and how they affect us has an enormous impact on our ability to engage in self-care. Narcissists and those with antisocial traits tend to subject romantic partners through three phases within a relationship. Be wary of: